December 27, 2002
14 Weeks

I'm officially at 14 weeks, that's the start of the second trimester.

According to my pregnancy online calender, this is what's going on: "Crown to rump, your baby is between 4 and 4 1/2 inches long, and weighs 1 3/4 ounces. The body is now growing faster than the head. This week, its parchment-thin skin covers itself with lanugo (ultra-fine, downy hair that usually disappears before birth). Though eyebrows are beginning to grow and the hair atop the head is sprouting, this hair may change in both texture and color after birth. About now, the fetus can grasp, squint, frown, and grimace. It may even be able to suck its thumb. Researchers believe these and other movements probably correspond to the development of impulses in the brain."

I had my 3rd DR.'s appointment today, which let us hear the heartbeat again. It was much slower than it was last time. I have a doppler at work that we use on cats to check their blood pressure, and of course I've used it on myself. I'd always thought I was hearing my vena cava or some other large vessels pumping away. Seems it was the baby the entire time.

Of course now I feel kinda stupid that I would get disapointed 'cause I could not find the heartbeat on my own, when I really had it every single time. Of course now I know I can hear it any time I want.

I also got quite a shock from my doctor today when he went into great detail on how they have a large percentage of natural childbirth. They only have a 15% rate of epidurals and other types of drug managed pain. Also this practice assists in the birth of 1000 babies per year out of the 3500 born at the hospital we will be going to.

This part is best told by Scott:

I was sitting there, basically a guest in the "seige perilous" of a gyno office, when I got to see the birds come home to roost on my girl. She had been feeling the luxury, the permissiveness, of being early-pregnant in a house with an appreciative husband. Dishes? Done. Vacuum? Done. Laundry? Done. Catbox? Done (Cat puke? Ellen... I have my limits).

So there my girl was, thin, fit, and happy. Then the Doctor started talking about "natural childbirth". We'd talked about this before. Ellen was going to feel one "oompf" of pain and then she'd scream DRUGGSS!!!, and then we'd all be invited to hold hands and sing "happy-happy-joy-joy".

But you see this doctor had other ideas. "We're mostly a natural childbirth place. Oh, sometimes we'll do an epidural, but the vast majority of our births are natural."

The transformation was most impressive. Swear to god, she turned white, then green, then an amazing shade of... plaid (really!) This was not in the original plan. I must admit, I burned a few karma points here. I could have, at any point, noted that the doctor candidly stated that drugs would be provided at request, but all Ellen heard was "natural" and she just stopped listening. She got really, really quiet, and I swear her arms came up and her legs crossed. I half expected her to say "eep!" Definitely a payback moment for all those litterboxes with... colorful... contents.

Well, ok. I think I could do it (my mom said she had a natural childbirth with my sister- it hurt-alot). Maybe some Demerol? I know, almost sure that I don't want an epidural at this point. I may change my mind later! He also explained that this is not a hospital room. It's a' birthing suite'. "Ooo..a suite?" I say.

He shook his head and was like "Tsk...think of you having your baby at the Hyatt Regency. You get a suite dear, not a white hospital room. You are having a baby, not a procedure."

Ok. "I'll take your word for it, I've never done this before". Scott says he plans to try to hide his nuts from me so I won't make the attempt to rip them off at the appropriate time.

Again, Scott:

Bah. Ellen was completely freaked out at this point. Like I said, she heard "natural" and then went on autopilot. I'm amazed she remembers the conversation. You guys have read all these reports, I think you have a decent insight into her mindset... "like a big, tough workout, only laying down". Pride so hard you can bounce rocks off it. Well, the words "natural childbirth" stuck a pin in that particular balloon. If any of you out there wanted to strangle this little Italian Denise Austin over her "not-quite-six-pack" and "Oh god, I'm so disgusting, I'm a size 5" complaints, you got yer revenge. Little miss fitness got a reality check right between the eyes.

Of course, if I bet her she couldn't do it without drugs she wouldn't even flinch dialated 10cm. Never bet an Italian, especially one proven to train cats to sit up.

Posted by scott at December 27, 2002 07:28 PM

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It's still natural WITH drugs. Giving birth is natural no matter how you do it....unless you have someone else carry the baby. Fuck that doctor's idiotic advice. I'd start looking for a new one who respects YOUR wishes.

Posted by: Da Goddess on December 27, 2002 11:22 PM

I am a labor delivery nurse have been for 15 years. If you feel you need drugs and or an epidural get it....You are the one who has to labor not your doctor.If the doctor is really pushing for no drugs and you feel strongly that you want that as an option find another doctor who will listen to your wishes. It is your body and you who will be in labor not the doctor.

Posted by: Karen on December 27, 2002 11:27 PM

I have already told you how I feel about pain. I am agin it if you can avoid it. If you want to try childbirth with no pain mediciation go for it but know that you are not a coward and in no way will harm the Jelly Belly if you want an epidural.I hate the term "natural childbirth" I think it is designed to make you feel guilty if you need pain medication.
This is advice from the third RN in a row and your mama-in-law to boot.

Posted by: Pat on December 28, 2002 12:07 AM

Everyone else has left serious comments...I just wanted to tell you that my boyfriend's sister just had her baby, and her stepdad was, erm, fisting numbers 8 and 9 in the dilation chart...with plenty of extra room...with 10 to go *giggles* I don't think *I* could do childbirth without drugs...but if you want to... :D

Posted by: Pam on December 28, 2002 02:11 AM

isnt demerol for car sickness

Posted by: richie on December 28, 2002 04:47 AM

First of all Scott makes it sound worse than what it really was.(men!) I am all for trying new things. If I think I want pain mgt at that time, Ill get it.

I have a high tolerance for pain, and I dont want to be numbed from the waist down and stuck on my back for hours at a time. I dont tolerate pain laying on my back. Nor do I want a urinary catheter placed.(watching too many episodes of Birth Story on Discovery Health)Believe me, I am all for pain mgt if needed. I may not be in human medicine, but my patients CANT tell me when they hurt so I oblige them early on with some pain control.

I need some nice stories for once. All I have been getting from people who find out I am pregnant is how HORRIBLE it was. Yeah, ok, it may be bad for several hours(days even), but I dont want so many people making me feel I need to regret getting pregnant.

Posted by: Ellen on December 28, 2002 07:15 AM

Oh yeah, Dramamine is for car sickness...not Demerol Rich. :P

Posted by: Ellen on December 28, 2002 07:16 AM

E. walk away from people who want to tell you what a horrible experience they went through with child birth. Just don't listen to them. Everyone has their own unique experience and just think about what you will have when it is over. LOL

Posted by: Pat on December 28, 2002 09:35 AM

I said before that I would not give any stories or advise to anyone without being asked. But it sounds like you need a little of each.

I have NEVER told you how "bad" childbirth was.
But for you info, it wasn't that bad, even though it turned to back labor (which is the worst type labor to have). I didn't get meds right away either. My labor started at night, I got a sleeping pill around 4 a.m., then epidural around 10 a.m. and JT came out at 1:58 p.m. That is not bad.
Just beware, after a certain point you can not get meds. You might want to check with your doc about at that "no turning back point". I had a friend that went so fast there was no time. Her daughter was born one week before JT and she is pregnant again and due in late March.
If anyone tells you that they were NEVER SCARED or apprehensive, then that woman is LYING THROUGH HER TEETH (or an idiot). (anyone up to admitting that?)
I wanted to try without for as long as I could, and I think I did pretty well.

Posted by: Cindy on December 28, 2002 10:41 PM

I haven't been pregnant/given birth, so I can't help you =/ Sorry dearie.

Posted by: Pam on December 30, 2002 02:36 AM

here's our little story.... at least part of it, anyway... it wasn't that bad. Just don't listen to the people who tell you the horror stories. Remember, every birth is different and unique and yours will be no exception.


Posted by: Jim S on December 30, 2002 10:53 AM
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